It is a big thing that his holiness Dalai Lama is in Copenhagen right now. He is giving a speak on compassion and he is showing it. Yesterday I was lucky to be there live.
 
When I have heard his lectures online or about Buddhism their idea on compassion it is different than most people think of it in the West. It becomes more and more common giving compassion.

Before going I was wandering how his holiness looks at disability? Bad karma? Something you are able to do something about? I didn´t ask him but now I think I know what he would say: "It is life". He said so on similar subjects.

I agree in many of his statements: One of the important ones about leadership is: "Weapon control must take place in your heart". He used an example when he explained that anything can be used as a weapon.  When he was 4 years old he used his nails to scratch his brother when he was mad at him.  

He truly believe that we are all one. - Everybody suffer when someone suffers. At the same time it is possible to be happy. Something that is also in my experience to be true. How can we serve the most?: To be happy and create surplus in every aspect, then share.

 

In this blog I address both professional and personal leadership. 

In my daily life I have in the last 5 years gained extremely many hours of experience in leadership between people.

Specifically, I have to manage the budget. Do we reach the goals. Will I hire and dismiss the right people, and people where I can be a good management matchto them. Cooperation. Employee Development Interview, work envioment laws, tasks, leadership, values, development, chemistry, daily well-being (social capital), etc.
 
In areas it is good to have an ultra schematic approach. There must be a, b, c, on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. To do such and such. At other times the routines and plans changes - which is fine, but then a task is suddenly no longer routine and must be explained anew. Circumstances may have changed a bit and it is not routine anymore. What different persons take as a norm is as individual as the date when we are born.

There are many good intentions during a day.

One example is to do something completely new. As a leader it can be a constructive way to articulate a situation. You can be sure that if there is a frustration among your employees or are you frustrated employee or manager, then something new must be taken into action. A very simple way when the "ordinary" does not work is to try something new. My experience is consistently that EVERYBODY want the best and want to create a better situation. Occasionally it is me who shall be more distinct and clear, other times all parties. The best results come when the involved and sometimes everyone in a team contributes to a common understood solution in which we are all winners.

The other day I was reminded of the lesson: 
"When you fall - get up". 
It is in every area in life. 
Here I was flying out of my wheelchair when it flipped over. Landed safely and surprised on the floor with chair on top of me and a bit faster heartbeats. - People around were very sweet and wanting to help. Some of them a bit chocked and so much wanting to do the right thing.

The lessons in the lesson

• It is far from every time we fall that we get injured. Mostly we are just a bit shaking or our bodies are but we are okay.
• We have the possibility to discover all the people wanting to help. 
• Seeing things from a new perspective
• Mastering new skills 
• The ability to be able to deal with the situation ourselves.
  
• It can actually be fun and give good productive reflections, give feeling of love and safety, chance to develop.

We can both become good to fall, so we do not get hurt. Just as well can we become good to experts to get back up - even with joy, fun and love.

Thank you to all the people who wanted to help me. 
My trembling had nothing to do with the enviorment. Thank you for letting me use the photos. 

Can you imagine that everything in your life and in your kids life is support? Imagine that All Is Well.

Imagine you get divorced and All is Support - All Is well. If you have kids imagine that they have the "right parents" even though the other parent is different than you thought he/she would be.

There are so many stories we can tell ourselves. 
That you choose the wrong parent/partner for your kids, that it was the wrong partner for you ...
But you did choose this person - unless it was a partnership forced on you.

Can you imagine your kids being able to use the experience to grow? That they now know something new and now know even more what they want in life so they can go get it. Imagine that you now have even more clarity what you want for you so you can choose to go get it now.

It can be this simple. The partner you choose were hopefully someone you enjoyed very much at the time you choose her/him and he/she choose you.
Now someone else is the "right for you".

Or an example from my own life. Last Friday I so much wanted to participate in a dance party celebrating the clubs 25 years birthday. I woke up tired and exhausted. I needed even more rest and sleep and throughout the day I couldn´t stay awake. I did some kundalini yoga as I do every day and then I slept some more. In the evening I could have chosen to pull myself up and out of the door. Knowing from experience, I would easily have been sick and feeling real bad in my body for the next 4-6 weeks, if I had used my body as much as I wanted to by going to the dance party that night. I chose staying in my duvets and bed, and had a wonderful time relaxing there. Just what I needed even though I missed a 25 years anniversary dance party with fun.
It was too high a price to pay making myself sick, and I absolutely felt better staying at home that night.
 

If I had felt it would have given me more energy to go of course I would have. We need to stay in touch with ourselves and when we do so the right decisions comes along. 

You can choose to exercise and believe All Is Well - All Is Support. 

Today is a very special day. They all are ;-)

This Friday August, 8th I am co. hosting a "miracle party" at a danceclub, The Carmaclub (Karmaklubben) in Copenhagen. 

We are celebrating the progress I have had in my legs over the last year and celebrating miracles in general.
This is our 3rd miracle party. The first one was in 2012 where I had just learned to tip my toes. Last year tip my legs. 

I believe what we give energy and give our attention to grow. I believe it is important to acknowledge our successes and celebrate our milestones.
When I started coming in this danceclub 3-4 years  I was the only one in a chair. I couldn´t move or feel my legs and feet. Had issues with balance. I knew it would perhaps be a challenge for me the first time participating but also knew it would pass and then I would love dancing public in a club again. Especially the Carmaclub with it´s special atmosphere. 

I share this with you because I believe our subconsiousness register the information's we get. The more we meet success the easier it i to achieve our goals, implement and empower us self and others. It is a dance with lie and our straingths. I salute doing that and enjoying life at the same time.
Let us choose our potential and light

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Lately I have heard more than one mentor saying: "The body always know the truth" and "the body never lies". 

I partly disagree! Both as private person and professional as a body psychotherapist!
It depend how you interpret. You´ll get some examples.

When I was in my teens I felt so FAT. When I was feeling my body and looking at it I felt FAT. But the fact was that it wasn´t. For many years I looked normal sized, slim and for some years a bit chubby, but fat, no. When looking in the mirror I saw FAT. Breathing, connected to and "being in my body" I felt FAT. 
Professional there is a reason why the "food challenges" as for instans anorexia is called a dis-order. The persons perception of reality and self has changed.
You´ll get more about this theme in another blogpost and how all is support also when human beings choose eating disorders.

Most of us know the feeling of having been to a great party. As times go by the memory of the party gets better and better. The feeling many will have in their body will resonate with what they have told them self and when sharing in stories with their loved ones. Now the party was awesome and how the party feels in the body is to.
By the way something we can counciously choose to use actively in our life.

Professional I have seen and heard people having created what is called "false memories" also related to their body. A person can have so little sense of Self (being them self) that he or she doesn´t know. The feeling in their body will often be splited and for some feels as anxiety.

A few month ago I had surgery and after that my body for a month nearly fainted when consulting nurses and doctors. Absolutely peaceful things but my body didn´t knew and tried to escape. My body instinct was that health staff = danger. Even though I was in narcosis when operated my body remember the feeling of danger and pain.

That being said the body does tell the true about emotions. For some human beings it is to overwhelming and for those it can be a good idea to go slow or get assistance from a mentor when feeling their body.
 
Most kids are connected to their body and express the emotion when feeling it. 
The body is a treasure chamber to tell stories we had forgot or stories we connect to when giving attention to how it feels. It can of course also be we have a story and then dare to feel our emotions as they are in the now and feels in our body.

The body is often a fast way to seek for advice. It has lots of great answers.  
In some way the right question is not if the body alway tells the trueth. A body is a body and always tell us stories and feelings.

The conclusion is the body is true. It has a story. Many stories and a now where we can choose to feel how it feels. To see what the body believe is true. The combination body(awereness) and head (cognition) can be glorious.

The body is a source of wisdom. It also have emotions and when we listen, perhaps go even deeper and when we respect the body's answers for many of us then it can be clearly what to do.  For example what is and feels most fun and free. Do we hold our breath or breath in the situation.... That is a great parameter.

I invite you to have fun exploring your body and it´s wisdom. If you aren´t already familier with it and it´s reaction I invite you to become.

For Joy, Love & Success
All Is Support
Kristina Seia Sangvita

We have so many choices. Our mindsets and values are some. The most basic are.

When we grow up we are often encouraged to choose and believe in our parents mindsets, the school system, part of society (in some contries in churches, doctors, ...) ... Sometimes the values salute us, makes us expand, glow and grow. Empower us and we have a party living. At other times they do not. Some of our belief is influenced by cultural aspects. 

Many grown ups are taking classes in leadership, empowerment, personal development, more education, .... 
Also here we get to choose. Which values and which mentors we consult and belief.
It is so simple. Do we or our mentors belive in our ability to achieve goals in each level in life, to feel fantastic and awesome no matter what, or do they say: "We are so sorry for you", "Poor little you", "Someone did you wrong" and so on. 
I believe it is most important to listen to our inner true and integrity. When we want to learn new stuff or mindset then examine which mentors resonate the most. 
Sometimes we do take a stand feeling the empowerment. As time goes bye perhaps we discover new values. Now we have a new stand and a new trueth.

Three examples:
1.  At some point in life some people have "the poor little me", "the other persons/parents/schools/society faults". It can be empowering for a person who shall discover his/her right for example to be angry, to allow themself to be who they are ... When that has been learned and learned about thier own reponsibility in life they can move on to a new upgrated mindset.

2. If I have a toothache. I can coose to see it as the universe are confident in my ability to handle it. To see it as: Upgrate in the rooths. The old system is not enough anymore and better will come.
I take very good care of my teeth and though I do that they sometimes react. There can be taken so many views: 

• Genetic 
  
• Do I have inflammation somewhere in my emotional rooths and now it is time for a consious upgrate ... 
  
• It can be the gate to something much better.
  
• I could also go with the poor little me. Feeling sorry for myself, talking about injustice...
  
• Letting the anxiety for loosing all my teeht take over. That would absolutely be dis-empowering myself. I rather choose the mindset where I belive in my ability to handle and land great solutions.
  

3.  Do you believe in your ability and unique gift to earn monye with joy, love and integrity?
It is a choice. What empower you the most?

When believing in our ability to handle and acomplish we most often are able to. It is the premise for achieving.
So choose the mindset that empower you the most, for what you want to achieve in your life and for who you want to be.
Take your leap into more joyful leadership. Leap into more empowerment. Choose the mindset where you are your own C.E.O. in your life.

For Joy, Love & Success
All Is Support
Kristina Seia Sangvita