This happened to me in a conflict during the night where my body began shaking so it was difficult to move away from the situation, simply my body responded wirth fear for one part and anger for another part. My amygdala, that is the part of the brain dealing with stress/fear/defense, and my nervous system got highjacked into another persons anger and response. The other person basically began to hit me and yell of me. The hitting is not something I would expect in my adulthood or from an adult. I am not afraid of the person but my amygdala and nervous system was. I had a requst, that the other person did not want to meet and responded strongly agressive to. Back in my room, 1 m from the scene, I was still shaking from adrenaline and my body hurted badly simply from the chemical overfload, the freez and then stil shaking, feeling heavy and got physical cold. Basically a shock reaction as well as anger. I didn´t feel pain while shortly being hit at. Don´t think it was hard and simply chemicals and if it was the adrenaline rushing though my system simply prevented me in feeling it.
Just for the record: I am safe.
It doesn´t have to be this dramatical, but we all get highjacked from time to time and luckily there are things we can do to ease and release ourself. First of all when posible move ourselves out of the situation if/when posible and go to space that feels safe or space where you can take care of you.
Today I was basically energetically and physically frozen while shaking, but did some meditation. Listen to some mantras. Focused on my breath that was very locked and needed some help to make make peace in my body and brain. Then tried to relax as much as posible. Writing a bit in a notebook and reflecting on the insights I got, looking at the mirrows show in the conflict and situation, and other. At that time my body would not have moved if I had begun the deliberately shaking or it would had added more stress. Some hours later I used my adrenaline to get something done. Then beginning to feel adrenalin level falling. I got tired and rested some. Afternoon came and I felt it was now time to move and consciously shake. To re-gain my breath and body fully. Let go of the highjack. I consciously shaked for around 22 minutes, jumped, danced a bit and then did a bit of it all in what felt best. This all while staying pressent and grounding myself. Today all in all around 35-40 minutes and then it was enough.
The trick is not just to space out, but ground yourself when you are shaking the chemical rush, emotions and shock of. Also to not over-do. Connect and feel into if it feels good or not if you can feel anything. Sometimes it will be posible to feel at other times you might still have to many chemicals rushing to feel anything within than discomfort.
Do you get closer to you, your core, "your normal body and self" or futher away. How is your breath? Does it tighten up more or release more and expand?
It will be different how long is needed and what is good for you to be in the proces. Feel within.
It is important and I invite you to stay as pressent with yourself as posible. Begin with shaking as you were mad or a 3-5 year old child throwing itself in anger and sorrow yelling, sparking at the supermarked floor, while you stay with your adult self. Stay pressent in the now! If wild wild make you disapear then choose softer. Shake all the madness out with arms above shoulder high and head, shake the frozen energy out, the stock emotions and the extra chemicals that has been rushing in your body. Breathe. Shake it all; your head, sholders, arms, belly, but, legs, feet,... You are welcome to enjoy the shaking, later perhaps jump and dancing from within while you stay grounded and pressent with yourself. BREATHE. Let your breath be free and restore its natural balance and force. A good indicator that your get more free is your return to a more expanded breath and fill up your body with new oxygen fully before exhaling again. Feel the expansion in your body and in your mind. If your mind has been highjacked as well, you will most likely begin to think more constructive than a old pickup gramephone record in loop.
If you use music for shaking and dancing conscioulsly then choose high vibe - as mantra music made for dance. Support yourself.
Mostly the person who begin to hit, yell and simlair is also highjacked, however this is ofen a different approach that is helpful. Maybe I write about that in a coming blog. Will see.
When more deep and old traumas are (re)activated or new activated we sometimes need help to stay pressent and grounded and to be able to be in our body or emerge into it and be with ourselves. Simply because being you is to overwhealming at the time being or in the trigger situation. Some suggestions here could be (somatic) psycho therapy, access bars, yoga and meditation. There are different ways. Choose the one(s) that calls to you.
All the best to you.
In service and with love,